Have you ever wondered why some women prefer to be with certain stereotypes of men? wondered to yourself, why if I’m such a good guy and I treat women so well, don´t I have success with them? ¿why do I always end up getting in the “friends zone?
First you have to understand that women have instinctive behaviors, in the depths of their being, these behaviors were molded over time, since the beginning of civilization, when the Chief of the tribe was the strongest, the “alpha” , and therefore he got what he wanted, if he liked a woman he took her; on the other hand a woman wanted to be with him because he would protect her more than any other, because he was the leader and the strongest and it would give women advantages to be with him that other women would not have, on the other hand a woman prefers the genes of an “alpha” because their children would be more capable and strong.
If we return to the present, this is still applicable, instinct remains in the depths of us, it is in the first brain layer, the “reptilian” since this is the strongest layer, our instincts are the deepest in our brain, eating, sex, affection, etc. any human being who does not naturally satisfy their instincts, is dissatisfied because they are part of our existence as living beings.
Once understood this instincts, we can begin to observe, why a woman prefers to be with the “bad boy” the one that does not treat her as a Princess, the adventurer, the artist, the independent. All these stereotypes have in common, without realizing, “alpha” style behavior. With their mere presence, they demonstrate independence, to them it doesn’t matter what other people think, what they want they take it, they are not afraid of being rejected by a woman, they are indifferent, leaders, show mental toughness, they do not follow anyone, they are free, they are themselves. Their insecurities are difficult to percive (everyone has insecurities, but theirs are not so easy to find, or their particular insecurities are not an obstacle to get women). The “bad boy” shows, that he is strong and things are done as he says, that shows independence and alpha attitude , you do not have to be “the bad boy”, you can be a gentleman, but a gentleman that is indifferent and independent.
What can you do to act as an alpha, what can you change in yourself?
– but, you will say: I don’t want to change, I will not be a hypocrite, I want to be loved for what I am, I don’t go playing games, I don’t want to manipulate women, an alpha currently has money and power, etc.
These thoughts I have heard them over and over again, from friends who do not succeed with women, they are evasive thoughts, you afraid to get out of your comfort zone, or may even have deep insecurities that make you feel like a man who is not the enough man. You are just not comfronting yourself, the first step to take is to face yourself, you should understand that you are not an absolute, you are a being with the ability to evolve every day, to constantly improve.
By changing, you are still yourself, only improved and therefore happier and less insecure, to realize that everything is in your hands, you will feel that you are capable to achieve everything that you want to, you only need to stop being afraid to suffering, suffering caused by getting out of your comfort zone, because getting out its hard, it takes hard work, and puts us to the test, we begin to face our own mind. By changing this thoughts you are not being a hypocrite, not a manipulator, and you also do not need money and power, you are not being a jerk, you are only changing your mental attitude, you weel change it from needy to indiferent.
What you can start doing to become with time and practice in an alfa, is first of all, you need to stop showing scarcity and neediness about sex, you need to imagine yourself and act like if you had 20 women every day, if you had so much women would you care about being rejected by the number 21?, if you had so much girls begging you every day to fuck them, how would you act?, first of all sex wouldnt be such a big deal, it would be so vast, that your mind would be thinking so much about it, sex is a natural thing, stop being obsessed with it, by being obsessed with it you stop being an alpha and you become a needy. To picture yourself in this situation, your self security would improve, your atittude will become more and more alpha, you will stop being shy (which is not alpha), because an alpha male has security in his self and he does not care what other people think, he is accepted because of who he is, and if he is not, he does not care.
By not giving sex so much importance, you start to show with your mere presence, that you are an alpha, but this does not mean, that you whould´nt go out and meet women, it is important that you practice interaction with girls, that you learn to play the game, and have fun, but when you are with women, you need to have a certain indiference attitude, like if you were talking to another of your mates, you are only having fun, you need to make women laugh, but never give them more attention that you would give to one of your mates, you can even be talking with her and then go to talk with other people when she is having the most fun etc.
When you ask a girl out, this can also be aplied, never should you begg her for anything, to answer your phone, you should never be intense and give her a lot of importance, you are a guy which has 20 woman waiting for him at home, and if one of them does not want to go out with you there are other 19 womans waiting to go out, you are such a happy guy with such a bussy and fun life, that if the girl number 21 does not answer the phone, you do not care at all.
By applying this mental changes, are you not yourself? you are being yourself, but improfed, more succesfull with women and ath the same time you are suffering less because of reject, your mind starts to worry less and to enjoy life more.